You know the feeling of finding a $5 bill at your feet?! It may not be a lot of money, but it could be life changing depending on how you use it!!
Imagine if you could find spare time, like unwanted coins. I know you’re going to find this hard to believe but what if I told you that, you can! Time is all around us, the problem is we’re too “busy” to look down & pick it up!!
I fell into this trap when my kids were younger, never finding time for myself & feeling like a martyr for all I did! I was stressed out, anxious & found myself snapping over all the things that were not getting done. Sound familiar?
Mom’s have a special way of taking on the Mother-load of work, especially in a family! It’s so much easier, & frankly accepted, to be “busy” than to have to look for ways to lighten our load. It’s not your fault. You may, however, be surprised to learn how easy it is to lighten your load.
What makes up the majority of our “busyness”, is ….BEING IN ANOTHER’S BUSINESS!!
That’s right, you will find hours of spare time when you discover how much time you’ve been spending in your child’s business! This is life changing!
So let’s look at the types of business there are:
Mine, Yours & Gods …period!
Knowing whose problem is whose & staying in your lane, eliminates struggle. lightens anxiety & frees up the valuable time that you’ve been looking for!
I know, it seems counterintuitive, after all, if you don’t do “it”, “it” won’t get done.
I used to believe that too, but let me assure you, that’s simply not the case. It may not be done “well” or the “right” way but it’s done & you can focus on what you need to do.
Here's the best part, when kids handle their own “stuff” it develops self regulation, confidence & the believe that they are capable humans preparing them for the next level of life.
So next time you’re feeling stressed & looking for more time in your day, ask yourself “Who’s business is this?” Give everyone’s“stuff” back to them & it will be a “win, win” for everyone!
Ways to know you're in your kids business:
You catch yourself speaking about their “stuff” like it’s your own.
“We” had so much homework last night
“I” will talk to your teacher
“We” have a game & a practice on Saturday.
“I” will get your clothes for you
You will know you are in your business when you feel calm, focussed, & abundant!
Lindsay Lal Professional Coaching